I would argue that we listen to kindness. If we think someone likes us, we can hear what they have to say even if it’s criticism. But if someone is mean, we just assume that whatever they’re saying is b.s. Or at least I do. If I receive a mean email advising me to do this or that better, all I see is mean. The advice just disappears into the paper.
Recently, we received an email telling us what we should do differently with Red Hen but it was a mean spirited email by someone who probably wasn’t a fan of books, let alone of independent publishing. Mark remarked that the author of the email might have some good points. Nice of him to think so, but I couldn’t see it. Fortunately the delete button works pretty well on my laptop. And Mark could have been right, there may have been good points in the murky depths there.
It’s a good thing to keep in mind when you’re communicating if you want to be heard.
Tomorrow we will do the cooking for our Christmas party and the party is Saturday. It’s not going to be a big party, but we’ll have a few friends over maybe 20-30. On Sunday we’re going to Arizona to see friends, I’m really excited about this trip.
The world is large and I have only just begun to feel how complicated it all is. There are more stars in the sky than we can count. The nearest habitable planet is thirteen light years away. I always hoped that we would discover alien life in my lifetime. Aliens might be out there.